I’ve been asked if I am happy, and I answered, neutral.

That’s if you average out the feelings that I’m going through for the past few weeks. Happiness, sadness, anger and loneliness.

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Some thoughts on happiness.

1. Sometimes, happiness is a state of mind.

It is perfectly fine and healthy to “fool” yourself by dwelling on the positive aspects rather than the negative. Rather than compare with others who are wealthier/happier/better all the time.

Sometimes, a little bit of bragging does wonders.

2. Other times, happiness needs some real life action.

One should take charge about the situation and not mope and whine. Neither should one “fool” himself into thinking that everything would be fine and dandy.

Budden hor… sometimes this requires hard work and courage. Mostly courage. (Speaking from personal experience)

3. Happy is about not taking things too seriously, not taking things to heart. Not to be too anal about things, not to constantly doubt nor distrust. Not to be so perfectionist and have overly high expectations. In other words, to be more open.

Like in those english sitcoms where the main characters gets all sorts of sarcastic remarks but he still brushes it off or gives a nice retort back. At the end of the day everyone’s still fine with each other.

4. Happiness is about being yourself. (Unless, well, being yourself means being depressed and sad and lonely and antisocial, which definitely is not means for happiness.)

Being true to one’s feelings, opinions, likes and dislikes, without any hiding in the dark.

I’ve always the feeling that I’m being repressed by others. So I can’t say stuff freely. Like on this blog. But sometimes its all in the mind.

So, adopting a heck care attitude = happiness.

5. Happiness can be provided by external factors sometimes. Like other people, or material stuff. It isn’t a bad thing per se.

But too much dependance on it = bad thing. What if it fails you?

The important thing is thus happiness derived from within. Things like self-worth, self-image, confidence, faith.

6. To reduce dependance on any single external factor, diversify.

And finally, happiness may be ideal, but it shouldn’t be the overarching goal of life.